It never ends... My ex wants to file for guardianship of our 19 year old daughter. My "kiddo" was in a terrible auto accident several years ago that changed her mentally and physically but as far as I knew, in no way made her incompetent to live independently. Granted, she's still recovering from trauma and physical complications that require surgeries but based on what limited contact I have had with her, she seems all there and still the kiddo I love. My concern is for her well being, long-term. If I were to consent guardianship, my daughter will never have total control over her own life. This just seems unfair but I digress, I do not share the home with her and have truthfully, no idea the extent of her mental and physical state other than (like I said) what I know from the limited contact I have with her. Had I known this was coming I would have asked many more questions and to be fair to myself, this pretty much blind-sided me. Anyone else been here, done this and have some words of wisdom? I know I have a lot of information to dig out of the physicians working with her but thought I would ask for some first-hand experience, if any's out there...just seems like this could be a bad deal for her down the road.
Well, After a long conversation of getting much needed information, turns out the accident really did a number on her both psychologically and physically. There are a few things that simply refuse to heal, even more than a year later. There's also a number of things shell never really be able to do 100%. Seems comprehension and depth perception were pretty much destroyed along with many bones on the night of her accident. Poor kid. At least she's alive and able to do many things. Sounds like she wont be able to drive but those of us in her life are taking the necessary actions to make the most of it, offering the best services available to help get her back into the swing of things and Social programs will help get her out into the work-force to hopefully allow her some much-needed independence some day. She's young and has many years ahead of her to make the most out of a tragic situation. To all of us that turn the key every day, take this as a warning...her failure to make sure the coast was clear changed her life forever. In the scheme of things to come, thank god the others involved in her mistake walked away. This could have been much worse.
